Category Archives: wedding

Shoes!!!

I love love love love love love LOVE shoes!  Few things make me happier than a pair of peep toe heels.  Except maybe cuddles, cupcakes and puppies.

Many stores are having their end of financial year sales so now is a great time to pick up a bargain.  Last night I had a function in the city and decided to stop in at David Jones for a bit of wedding shoe shopping beforehand.  Shoes galore!!  It would have been so much more fun if they weren’t all so damn expensive.  Amongst the Jimmy Choos, Marc Jacobs, and Laboutains were some quirky, sparkly and significantly less pricey shoes by Anne Klein.  It was love at first sight!  It matched all the requirements I had for wedding shoes:

Peep toes, heels, blue or silver, sparkly and with something unique.

I saw a pair at Gary Castles the weekend before but the $899 price tag was waaaaaay over my shoe budget.

So, here is what I got:

The colour/texture is called ‘caviar’ because they kind of look like they’ve been smeared with caviar.  These are totally untraditional and kind of weird but so perfect for me. 

My mom hates them and my dad thinks they’re tacky.  But I adore them.  Nobody’s really going to see them anyway so as long as they are comfortable and make me happy then it’s all good.

And because I’m the queen of wedding bargains, I found the same shoes from Amazon.com in the US for half the price.  So the ones I bought from David Jones are going back after I get my dress hemmed and I’ll have another pair sent to my parents’ house for them to bring when they come for the wedding.  Yay shoes!

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The Perfect Touch

Although my mom kind of drives me insane, we did have a lot of fun together.  On her last night here, while Dad and the fiance plowed bottle of wine numero quatro, my mom and I played dress up.  I put on my wedding dress while she oohed and aahed over it.  We’ve already decided that I’m going to wear earrings that belonged to my great grandmother on my dad’s side; simple little pearl earrings that were worn by her on her wedding day, then by my grandmother, then by my aunt and soon, me.

As my dress is very simple, we thought we’d add a little decoration to dress it up a bit.  I was thinking beading on the straps, or an deco pin on the bodice.  Mom brought over a pin that belonged to my great grandmother on my mom’s side.  We put it in the centre of the bodice and she started crying.  It was so perfect!  It’s all the dress needs, and so nice that I’ll be wearing something from both sides of the family.

In other news, my dad discovered my great grandmother and great grandfather’s marriage certificate.  They were married on December 20th; the same day we are planning on getting married.  This wedding is turning out to inlcude a lot of special family tributes.

As much as my family drives me nuts, they’re the reason I’m in this world.  There’s a lot to thank them for, and I can only hope that I make my ancestors proud.

I am the Luckiest

We were having a really difficult time deciding on the song for the first dance at the wedding.  I was thinking something jazzy like Harry Connick Jr.  He was undoubtedly thinking of something awful.

Most of the artists on his iPod playlist are dead: Jonny Cash, part of The Clash, half of the Beatles, one quarter of Led Zeppelin, and the lead singer of Nirvana, .  The rest are about three times his age: James Taylor, Bob Dylan, Bruce Springsteen, Crosby Stills and Nash (and Young who is not young), and Steely Dan.  He has the musical taste of a sixty year old.

The only artists he likes that are not in the grave or halfway there are the Dropkick Murphys and Ben Folds.  As much as I enjoy the combination of bagpipes and punk, I’m not keen on the idea of dancing to it at my wedding.  Ok, maybe later in the evening but certainly not for the first dance.

My playlist contains an absurd number of Bon Jovi songs and a bizarre hodgepodge of songs ranging from indie rock to classical to techno. 

We’ve already decided that we’ll be entering our reception to “The Love Cats” by the Cure.  Lame?  Kind of.  Cheesy?  Totally.  Perfect for us?  Absolutely!

I’m stoked with having the Cure for our entry music but for the first dance I want something a little more romantic.  I had been searching for the perfect song for weeks and my efforts had not been fruitful. 

That is, until the fantastic Australian Wedding blog Polka Dot Bride posted a mixed tape of lovely songs for the first dance.  When I came to the 5th song I started crying.  Happy tears, of course.  I am ever so grateful to her for leading us to our wedding song. 

This really is the perfect song for us.  Check out the lyrics.  It conveys what we both want to say on our wedding day.  We both feel that we are so lucky to have found each other.  This song never fails to bring a tear to my eyes.  I am going to be a blubbering mess during our wedding dance. 

And where was I before the day
That I first saw your lovely face?
Now I see it everyday
And I know
That I am
I am
I am
The luckiest

I love you more than I have ever found a way to say to you

Engagement Party!

Is it possible to be more excited about the engagement party than the wedding?  Yes.  Yes it is.  Even though we got engaged nearly six months ago, we haven’t had an official engagement party.  Criminal, I know.  We did have the best Halloween party in the Southern Hemisphere the day after we got engaged, but spending the evening dressed as Miss Piggy and passing out before midnight is not how I imagined my engagement party.

Mom and Dad are coming to visit next month so I’m using their visit as an excuse to do it right.  Finger foods, tiny cupcakes, drink stations, fun decorations, a cool guest book and tons of wine! 

And the best part?  No arguing about the guest list!  We can invite as many people as we want!  The 150 people we’re planning on inviting are not all going to fit in our house but we’ll make do…somehow. 

Invitations are getting printed now and will be sent out early next week.  Yay!

I Will Not Become a Bridezilla

I’ll be the first to admit that even with the wedding 10 months away, I’m already beginning to get a bit carried away by this whole wedding thing. 

Until I became engaged I had never given a thought to what my wedding would be like.  That did put me at a disadvantage when it came to actually planning the thing, but I had hoped that my lack of interest in all things wedding related would keep me grounded.  It did…for about a month. 

In the beginning when I was still level-headed (or naive, I’m not sure which), I had a lengthy conversation with my mom about how yes, the wedding was important but there’s not need to get all worked up about the details.  The important thing is that we’re making a commitment to spending the rest of our lives together.  The wedding is just a day…blah, blah, blah.

Then we started putting together the guest list.  My idea of a good wedding would be a small(ish), elegant evening with nice food and (lots and lots of) great alcohol.  When we started listing family members who would expect an invitation, we quickly realised that this would not be a small affair.  Long story short, we’re pretty much obligated to invite 60 family members.  When we started adding friends, the guest list quickly reached 100 and we decided to cap it there, otherwise we’d quickly burn through our budget. 

Then I began to succumb to the pressure of trying to satisfy everybody on that list, particularly my parents and our overseas guests.  We want to make the wedding (and surrounding events) special enough to make it worth forking out $3,000 for a plane ticket. 

I haven’t let the wedding get to the point where I’m obsessing about every single detail but I have spent an inordinate amount of time (at work) scouring wedding websites, starting to care about what the centrepieces will look like, and considering spending way too much money on a photographer. 

While reading one of my favourite blogs, I got a nice reality check.  The post was about a Newsweek article  about how brides go to extremes to look good on their wedding day.  I’ve vowed that I will not schedule tanning sessions, teeth whitening, facials, nail appointments, and all that superficial beauty crap that brides go through to look good for one day.  However, I will admit to a renewed devotion to eating healthy (a goal my fiance and I are working on together) and exercising regularly.  Also, as a wedding gift our best man (a personal trainer) will train us in the months leading up to the wedding.  Score!

Back to the article: the writer and commenters on that Jezebel post really put things into perspective. 

What is the point of forcing one day to be “perfect” and unnaturally polished?  What does the perfect wedding really look like?  Shouldn’t it just [be] a day on which everyone is just damn happy to be there?

Indeed. 

The only thing you should worry about…is if you’re marrying the right person.  If that’s sorted, all you really have to do is show up and smile.

There is no doubt in my mind that I’m marrying the right person.  If the wedding isn’t perfect I don’t care.  I’m going to show up in my $100 dress and enjoy the ride.

At the end of the day we’ll have had a fun party with our family and friends, and most importantly I’ll be married to my one true love.  And isn’t true love what really matters?

My Mom is Insane

But that’s why I love her.  I owe so much of my quirkiness to her.  

Need proof that she’s a bit weird?  Last time she visited, she couldn’t resist doing this to my feet:

Wedding Feet

Right Big Toe and Left Big Toe are getting married.  Right Big Toe is wearing a couture gown by Kleenex.  This was long before I got engaged and she had weddings on the brain then.   She also has grandbabies on the brain, but that’s another post entirely.

Wedding Colours

Our wedding theme is “Sydney Harbour.”  Fitting, seeing as our reception will overlook the harbour.  I want to capture the beauty of the harbour in our wedding colours.  Therefore, I have chosen the colours blue (the colour of the water in the harbour), green (the colour of the foliage in the botanic gardens), and white (the colour of the sails of the Opera House and of course, the sailboats).   Here is an inspiration board I created to try and capture the theme.

WeddingMoodBoard

Thanks to Snippet + Ink, Brooklyn Bride and The Knot for these inspirational images.